It has been quite a ride since Unhooked launched Feb. 15. Iâ€™ve given more than 100 interviews, and the email response has been amazing. Some writers have criticized and challenged my views, but most have been touchingly grateful. Psychologists, teachers, parents and grandparents have written, and so have many young adults:
An 18-year-old who identified herself as a feminist and college student wrote, â€œI have to be honest, I approached the book warily. But by the second chapter I became fairly certain that this book will change the way my generation approaches sexâ€¦.Your analysis makes us think differently about what we know.â€
A 19-year-old sophomore at a Florida university wrote, â€œI rush into relations with a guy, have sex between 2-3 days of knowing him and then immediately get attached. Then I get my heart broken. I am not the only one like this, I can name five others off the top of my head. Maybe it is low self esteem but I think it is that the world around us is hooking up and we donâ€™t know how to do it. I personally am completely lost in that game.â€
A 26-year-old woman who criticized the book wrote, â€œSex can happen without love.Â It’s okay.Â As long as you don’t do it too much, and you have love sometimes, too.â€
A 52-year-old woman wrote that previous relationships and the power to â€œhook upâ€ continue to affect her behavior and thought patterns, and not in a positive way.
Men have written as well, including a 32-year-old who said, â€œI found a lot of myself in Unhooked despite the fact that Iâ€™m not a woman, not young and not stunningly beautiful.â€
Unhooked is helping readers become aware of what they want and need in relationships. And it is prompting them to ask whether what theyâ€™re doing with their partners is giving them what they want, both physically and emotionally.
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