Gender Stereotypes

May 29th, 2007

There’s an interesting column in the Washington Post Sports section today about Danica Patrick, the pretty female racecar driver who poses like a vamp for magazines and finished 8th out of 30-plus drivers in the Indy 500. 

Here’s a young woman who is more adept behind the wheel of a fast car than most guys, yet doesn’t mind dressing in leather and lying spread-eagled on top of a 1957 Chevy for a magazine. Sally Jenkins, the reporter, asks a good question: Is Patrick busting or perpetuating stereotypes?

One could ask the same thing about women hooking up: By acting like guys are they busting or perpetuating stereotypes? And whatever the answer, is it good or bad for individual women and women as a whole? 

Marie Claire, Glamour, Cosmo

March 25th, 2007

Check out the March issue of Glamour and the April issue of Marie Claire for a story on Unhooked.

Also, coming in September, I have an article in Cosmo.

A Wonderful Whirlwind

March 12th, 2007

It has been quite a ride since Unhooked launched Feb. 15. I’ve given more than 100 interviews, and the email response has been amazing. Some writers have criticized and challenged my views, but most have been touchingly grateful. Psychologists, teachers, parents and grandparents have written, and so have many young adults:

An 18-year-old who identified herself as a feminist and college student wrote, “I have to be honest, I approached the book warily. But by the second chapter I became fairly certain that this book will change the way my generation approaches sex….Your analysis makes us think differently about what we know.”

A 19-year-old sophomore at a Florida university wrote, “I rush into relations with a guy, have sex between 2-3 days of knowing him and then immediately get attached. Then I get my heart broken. I am not the only one like this, I can name five others off the top of my head. Maybe it is low self esteem but I think it is that the world around us is hooking up and we don’t know how to do it. I personally am completely lost in that game.”

A 26-year-old woman who criticized the book wrote, “Sex can happen without love.  It’s okay.  As long as you don’t do it too much, and you have love sometimes, too.”

A 52-year-old woman wrote that previous relationships and the power to “hook up” continue to affect her behavior and thought patterns, and not in a positive way.

Men have written as well, including a 32-year-old who said, “I found a lot of myself in Unhooked despite the fact that I’m not a woman, not young and not stunningly beautiful.”

Unhooked is helping readers become aware of what they want and need in relationships. And it is prompting them to ask whether what they’re doing with their partners is giving them what they want, both physically and emotionally.

Feel free to share your responses and thoughts on this site.

St. Louis Post-Dispatch Review

March 2nd, 2007

Review in the San Francisco Chronicle

March 2nd, 2007

Here’s a nice review of my book in the Chronicle:

New York Times Profile

March 1st, 2007

Here’s a link to a profile of me and the book in this Thursday’s New York Times:

First Real Post!

February 24th, 2007

Dear Reader:

Welcome to my blog for my new book UNHOOKED.

As you may know, UNHOOKED explores the issues surrounding “hooking up” and how hooking up affects the lives of young people across the country. The goal of both the book and this blog is to spark a conversation about what the hookup culture really is, what it’s like to participate in it, and how it affects the lives and emotions of young women (and young men).

If the early response to UNHOOKED is any guide, hooking up is an issue that a lot of people – young and not-so-young, children and parents, have strong feelings about. I’d like to hear from you – be you young or old – about the ideas that I explore in UNHOOKED.the phenomenon of hooking up in general, and the impact it has had on you or people you know.

You will hear more about the book in the days to come on radio and TV shows like “Nightline” and “Today,” but it’s important to begin a dialogue at the center of the issue: You.

So I’ll let you know what I’m hearing and seeing if you do the same.

Let’s begin.

My new book

December 23rd, 2006

My newest book, Unhooked: How Young Women Pursue Sex, Delay Love, and Lose at Both hits the bookshelves February 15, 2007.